A healthy sex life is vital to any healthy relationship. But when lovemaking is part of a relationship, it risk becoming stale. So what can you do to avoid sexual boredom? How do you keep the relationship fresh?
Role play not only provide us with an opportunity to transform but it gives us a chance to mimic a new role and be able to explore and express our inner self. It is a fantastic way to deepen and enrich your relationship and encourages you to take your sexual experience to unprecedented levels. It allows you to be who you want to be and deliberately encourage you to be out of the norm. As simple as it sounds, role playing can play a big role in spicing up your love life instantly!
How can you suggest role playing to your partner? What are the do's and don'ts of role play? Role playing can be loads of fun and excitement if you know how to do it right. Here are some pointers:
Give subtle hints
When your relationship is suffering from frustrated and unsatisfied sex, it will do no good abandoning the matter or criticizing it. Honest discussion with your partner is always the key to solving such problems. Give subtle suggestions and comments. If you would like to suggest role play, try approaching it in a subtle manner as such "I would love to be examined by you tonight". Or if you are walking pass the lingerie section of a department store, try lines like "I bet you would look stunning in that".
Always bear in mind that such subtle approaches are easier and more acceptable by the ladies. Straightforward approaches is a definite no-no as it will only make yourself sound like a pervert, thus not getting the idea across.
Research and discuss
Plan role plays together. Discuss each other's role in advance, make a list of things to buy and plan out the scenarios (and dialog if you want to be more adventurous) together. Compare and decide what both of you are willing to try and not going to try. Voice it out if you are uncomfortable with anything and share ideas if you find anything exciting that would turn you on when you role play. The trick again is communicate and be honest with your own requests and fantasies without going abroad. Some might like it a bit rough while others prefer a more subtle approach. Once again, communicate your desires before the session, and you're likely to find it to be an unforgettable experience.
Shop together
Shop for costumes and accessories together. This way, you can be sure to get each other's approval!
When to use and not to use humor
Using humor is a good way to bring up any wild suggestions. You can gauge your partner's acceptance to the whole idea by studying his/her expression. If there are any signs of a turn-off, simple laugh it off as a wild joke. This way, your partner wouldn't feel uncomfortable about the situation. Keep an open mind and an open communication.
Rule No 1. Do not laugh at your partner when you are engaged in role play. Show him/her some respect and make your partner feel comfortable. Making fun of how your partner looks, sounds or does is a sign of mockery and will only discourage him/her in the future. You should both feel free to explore and enjoy your sexual desires.
Encourage your partner to fantasize
Take your partner closer to the whole idea of role play, encourage him/her to purchase and wear sexy lingeries or costumes for a positive cause instead of pure sex and lust. And instead of sending out a message that it is all for your own pleasure, make your partner feel sexy and confident while engaged in role play. You should also let your partner know that you do not mind him/her fantasizing about someone else other than yourself.
Set time aside
Lets not be interrupted during role play or sex as it can be highly frustrating. Turn off your mobile phones and make sure no one interrupts!
Be prepared
Know your role and lines. Prepare yourself before the real thing if you have to. And always remember that role playing is fantasy, not real. Your partner will most likely have different preferences when it comes to acting out the role. Therefore, do not be taken aback by the things that might come up ¡V like discovering a wilder side of your partner. And if you happen to forget your part, just improvise and think of something else. Do not stop short to ask "What should I say/do next?"
Enjoy
Put your partner's needs first and play your role the best you can. Enjoy being part of your partner's fantasy and he/she will make your fantasies come true as well.
Talk about it
Have talks about your "sessions". If there are anything you wish to see improved or changed or not to happen again, share it with your partner. The more you open up to it, the more it improves.
Things to avoid for beginners
Explore and start slowly if you are a beginner. Role plays such as rape and bondage require a higher level of trust. Be sure to talk the plan over with your partner before doing it. It is important for you and your partner to be equally into it. And be sure to stop when your partner wants to stop!
Role play is not sex
At the end of the day, it might be good to understand that not all role plays are associated with sexual desires and have to end up with sex. Role playing is a great alternative to foreplay. It helps to heighten imagination and enhance/keep your relationship alive!
